what age should you talk about abortion with your children ?

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Question by J J: what age should you talk about abortion with your children ?
My daughter is now 8 and 1/2. We have talked to her about the birds and the bees. We have talked about smoking and drugs and drinking, and the negative effects that they can have on a person. I want it to be ingrained in my daughters mind that she need not consider abortion. I believe that many young women feel that is their only option b/c they are embarrased about their situation and can’t bear facing the pregnancy and deliver. AFTER ALL, this is America, and you can HanD Pick adoptive parents, so I do NOT believe the fear is of actually raising the child, when women choose to abort, but rather the 9 months in which they must deal with pregancy. What are your suggestions?
we have already had the birds and the bees talk.

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10 Responses to what age should you talk about abortion with your children ?

  1. I don’t think it’s right to talk about abortion with a 9 year old, especially when she didn’t ask about it. If you told her what abortion was you would just be instilling fear into her. Some women don’t want to consider adoption and don’t want to be pregnant at all, you are telling your daughter that adoption is the one and only choice, when it’s not.

    Help!
    February 5, 2014 at 11:27 am
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  2. I think you should do it when you have the sex talk with her. Maybe when you start teaching her about her period and how to shave, and all the things that happen during puberty. Be sure to tell her that, while I’m sure you don’t approve of her having sex until she is an adult, if she is ready to have sex prior to the age of 18 she needs to talk to you about getting on birth control so that she never needs to feel that abortion needs to be an option.

    ♥whinie_p♥
    February 5, 2014 at 12:06 pm
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  3. Personally I think she is way to young to know about the birds and the bees. She is 8 let her be a child save that for at least ten if not 12. And hell you’re telling her about sex teach her about birth control and you want have to worry about abortions.

    Jenny+Jeremy=Olivia
    February 5, 2014 at 12:19 pm
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  4. I don’t think that is appropriate right now she is too young for that, its not a good thing so why not wait til she’s a little older I would… (:

    lucky38
    February 5, 2014 at 12:20 pm
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  5. Well to be honest I think that 8 and a half is way to early to talk about abortion. In my opinion there is no reason for a little girl to think about that. When you think your child is sexually active maybe sit down and talk about birth controls and consequences and try to introduce the topic then.

    Kim

    Kim
    February 5, 2014 at 1:08 pm
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  6. First of all 8 1/2 is NOT too young to know about the birds and the bees. i knew about it when i was that age and it turns out i am FAR more educated about ym body than even most women my age are. Why? Because my mother wasn’t afraid tot alk about it. She didn’t go into details but she wanted me to know. No one told her when she was younger and she learned everything from people in high school, negative and false things. she didn’t know much about her period either. She started it and was TERRIFIED. Girls need to know what their period is etc. There is nothing wrong with educating your children about it. Not educating them out of fear is more damaging. I don’t think i’d be talking about abortion as she doesn’t need to know about that quite yet. If you’re that concerned about it then i would wait until the year where they may be pregnant teens in ehr school.

    Cohen's mum back again
    February 5, 2014 at 1:55 pm
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  7. I am pro-life. This child did nothing wrong and the parents chose to punish their child by killing them in a horrible way. I agree if this girl is going around and having sex she needs to suck it up and give the baby up for adoption. Its horrible that people do this. Its not the mother’s body she is killing it is the babies.

    Princess of a King/#1 Duggar Fan
    February 5, 2014 at 2:55 pm
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  8. Your opinion of abortion really does not matter as she is the one that ultimately decides what to do with her own body.I think even if she or you don’t consider abortion, you still need to educate her on both abortion and adoption just like with everything else.I hope my kids never abort because I am a baby hog and I would gladly raise a grandchild if they didn’t want “it”, but I still educate them on it because THEY need to know all of their own options.

    Sareena
    February 5, 2014 at 3:09 pm
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  9. I’m not sure how I’d bring it up. She pretty young still. I’d wait till you’re watching the news together and it’s mentioned or you hear of something being pregnant or something. Perhaps talk about how some people get really afraid and actually pay someone to take the baby’s life but that many of them suffer later because of it and if only they had known, there is help available, there are so many people who will help them, then they wouldn’t have to do it. Don’t say too much at one time. It’s better to talk a little bit about things regularly. About right and wrong. About life. About choices. About actions. About taking responsibility. About becoming a parent. About how you grew. About coming to you for help. etc etc. You can also read a suitable book on fetal development for kids and maybe mention that sadly some people think their baby is not a baby yet and they pay someone to get rid of it. Don’t get to too deep into it and only tell her what she asks or is interested. You don’t want to burden her with too much information. You can also get books from the library about kids who have been adopted so she can see that that is a viable option. Good on you for wanting to teach your daughter what is right. Not sure if my ideas are what you’re looking for but maybe they’ll be a least a little helpful.

    All the best. :)

    Serena
    February 5, 2014 at 3:48 pm
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  10. NO to aborting!

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    Please visit that site. It talks about the VALUE of life!

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    The book is about Darcy, my sister, who had a disease called Trisomy 18 and she only lived for 15 days.

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    bellaa_smiley
    February 5, 2014 at 4:40 pm
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